The Challenge

Mentoring

We are born into a naturally positive state, we reach for nourishment, we cry when we are tired, we search for love, and for the vast majority we find it.

From that moment, we shape our lives, or actually our lives are shaped for us. A child will automatically learn from the many influences around them, their beliefs formed from whatever goes on in their world.

By adolescence, an ocean of knowledge has passed before us. Though many outside influences are reduced, they continue, and they continue throughout our lives. Adulthood generally allows us to more easily identify positive and negative influences, though the problem, is that we often do not realize just how important it is to identify which influences we should be following, or indeed how to avoid or ignore negative influences. Often those are offered in good faith without  realization of the consequences.

Now granted, we are not all perfect, we all make mistakes, after all we are human, and its human to do so, but too many of us don’t or won’t learn from our mistakes and we continue to amble through life, accepting exactly whatever life has thrown at us. and comforting ourselves with thoughts like, ” I’m not a lucky person” or “why do these things always happen to me”?. They are eager to blame everyone else for their latest set of uncomfortable circumstances. Whereas in truth, the life we are living, is a direct result of the actions we had taken in the past, and it is never too late to make changes for the better.

Learning from our mistakes and attempting to avoid reverberation as a result of those mistakes, is almost an art. Through using a set of rules (our beliefs) that we accept as our blueprint to living our lives, we will dictate what we are, who we are and indeed how we view ourselves and how we are viewed by others.

The challenge for a life coach, or mentor, is how well we are able to deliver solutions to the client that are acceptable to his beliefs. Our clients must have an open mind, be open to change, sometimes radical change, and be willing to reconstruct their belief systems.

Our beliefs are the foundations to which our entire lives are built. It is those beliefs that must be addressed if any benefits are to be seen from a coaching session. In most cases, multiple sessions are required, but in reality, continuous mentoring is a way to gain constant reassurance that we take full advantage of all the benefits of a fully positive and ordered mind. Mentors still have mentors throughout life, seeking for eternity, shared knowledge of case studies, trends and more successful ways of sharing their own knowledge and experience, with those that seek to improve their situation.

How to handle, stress, worries, relationship difficulties, time management, bereavement, self esteem, procrastination, happiness and a host of other related and unrelated issues can all be tackled by a life coach.

Life Coaching has grown enormously in the last few decades, Large  Corporations and Government bodies realizing the importance, lay on seminars and bonding sessions for key staff and decision makers.

Internet Marketing and Mentoring

The link between internet marketing and mentoring is inextricable. Most failed marketers, fail because of the lack of mentoring by those who often claim to be mentors. They may be able to explain in detail, exactly how you can become a successful internet marketer, but they cannot relay the mindset that is required to overcome the mental nightmare that internet marketing can become  in the mind of the trainee marketer.

Far from the fairy tale picture, portrayed by the over zealous designers of opportunity websites, with dollar bills being fired at you whilst you sit in the grounds of your mansion that overlooks the sea, gazing at pictures of your Ferrari, whilst you contemplate which exotic retreat you will visit on your next vacation.

Internet Marketing is complex, and for many, it is way outside of their comfort zone.

In fairness to the designers, they cannot say “Its real hard work and it sucks”, or no one would join their business. The whole point, is to create desire, and that’s a good starting block, but whether they should make statements like “a caveman could do it” or ” we do all the hard work for you”. are misleading and unfair. It is possible for almost anyone to master the general concepts, but some adapt more quickly than others, particularly if a “whatever it takes” attitude is developed.

To a degree you can self mentor, but with the aid of a trained mentor, pointing out stumbling blocks and solutions,  it would greatly benefit the journey from newbie to experienced marketer. The ability to see our goals, and to focus upon them, will speed up our abilities to comprehend the tasks required of us, and to experience the sensation of success as we move toward them, further driving our passion.

I recently came across an excellent program called The Marketing Nightmare, written and narrated by Tahir Shah. In it, Tahir gives a very accurate account of all of the elements experienced at some time by virtually all would be marketers, and also gives logical and workable solutions to them all. Each module comes complete with video, audio and PDF components throughout the series. I found it a worthwhile and compelling addition to grace my collection of marketing paraphernalia, and would recommend it thoroughly as a support tool.

Before making the final decision to become an internet marketer. Or if you are an internet marketer of some experience and have spent a considerable amount of time and money without producing any reasonable results. Seeking the ear and the knowledge of a Life Coach may well pay you long term dividends.

So to all internet marketers, may I wish you every success in your ventures. Remember that success is not all about money or possessions. Money does not buy happiness, but it sure helps.

To be free from the worries of money, or the lack of it, can be a most uplifting experience. Attach time freedom and you are two thirds of the way to paradise on earth. Wealth is having sufficient money to support the lifestyle you choose. Health, Wealth and Happiness is perfection.

If you have enjoyed reading the above and would like further information regarding Personal Development. I will be constantly updating this site, with an increasing amount of tutorial and inspirational content.

Fred Raybould

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